Manners and Ways to Easy Fulfilment of Rights in Marriage

Islam is a natural religion and its laws are best known to He who has created mankind and knows what is most beneficial for it. Therefore, every law in Islam has in its own sense, beauty and good, but because laws, like the parts of machine, are inter connected its complete benefit can only be realized through the complete religion. Like the important part of a machine, were it to reward can only be attained by accepting Islam fully and completely. The acceptance of the following rules of Islam are equally necessary:

1. To correct one’s belief, that is, to rectify the fundamentals of faith and accept its relevant aspects as well.

2. To adopt the practical essentials of Islam and its related facets through good actions.

3. To adopt the means of strengthening ones bond with Allah whereby sincerity and certainty can be attained, also making it easy for the fulfilment of ones actions and bringing truth therein.

4. When desire overcomes one regarding excessiveness and abusing the rights of ones wife then it is necessary to strongly oppose this by conjuring the image that Allah is testing me in either following the wrong desires of the self or following the desires of Allah and His Prophet, and should I follow the former, than in both the world and the hereafter will I have to carry such a heavy burden, nothing in comparison to this small desire of myself. Also addressing ones self saying “You also transgress and disobey Allah, and should He seek retribution in this world, what would the result be whilst the punishment of the hereafter is ever present, on that day this insignificant abuse of her rights would take away years of accepted salaah and fasting etc.. to be give in turn to her, who is wronged”.

And should that amount of accepted Ibadah, be absent then her sins will be given to the transgressing husband as narrated in the sahih ahadith regarding the muflis (poor person) who, despite his good deeds on account of abusing the rights of his fellow brethren will indifference, to abuse someone’s material or physical right then he should repent immediately and regret his error and be remorseful, asking for Allah’s I Mercy, Forgiveness and Protection from such despicable acts and from the intrigues of the self. Together with this, it is equally necessary to repay whatever has been misappropriated, materially and redress the occurrence of whatever physical or emotional harm there may be. For example, to disrespect, tease, swear, slander, physically assault someone whereby emotional or physical harm occurs, then it is equally necessary to seek forgiveness from the wronged person and overcome this in a such manner whereby its effect is negated. One has to fight ones desire to this extent, in order to obtain the pleasure of Allah I and protect oneself from His wrath and punishment and seek pardon from the person wronged, whether it be someone younger, wife or employer. By rectifying the wrong, one would benefit otherwise the account in the hereafter will be indeed difficult and arduous, because repentance alone certainly will bring repentance in the neglect of Allah’s I rights like the committing of major sins as well, but in regard to the rights of our fellow brethren, we have to accompany sincere repentance with a necessary pardon from the oppressed and wronged person.

Further Reading:

The Virtues of Women – 40 Hadith
The Purpose of Marriage
Two Sided Friendship and Rights
The Great Benevolence of Rasulullah On His Wives
Marriage is a Mode of Ibadah
Altering Our Present Opinion and Mode of Thought
The Status of Women in Islam
The Governance and Supervision of Women by Men
Advice and Warning to Men
Manners and Ways to Easy Fulfilment of Rights in Marriage
Respect for the People following the Sunnah and Fearing Allah

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