Advice and Warning to Men

In order to accomplish this responsibility men must observe much wisdom and patience and act very cautiously referring constantly to the Ulama thus preventing any excess or lack, otherwise it would result in further oppression, immodesty or misfortune wherein all goodness will be relinquished leaving only transgression, therefore the Shariah has forbidden distrust and investigation without valid cause. To maintain this harmony, softness and the etiquette of wisdom should be constantly applied, for example, on returning from a journey the etiquette applied should be the one instructed to the which Rasulullah replied:

“Tarry a while (grant your wives time for preparation) till we enter at night meaning the time of Esha prayer so that they may be in readiness for your return.”

From the general words of the ahadith the necessity of informing one’s wife regarding one’s return will be seen as a prevention from anything unwanted occurring, which could cause unpleasantness to him and together with this the position of women is also observed. The pure shariah has in all matters taken complete consideration of women. Similarly, women should be equally considerate, whenever the husband or guide wished to fulfil his duties upon her it is looked down upon, and this is not some inner feeling of disrespect beyond her but is definitely in her control. Therefore, whenever a responsible person fulfils his responsibility it is for the benefit of the people under him, they should not feel despondent rather thankful and glad of him, and pray for him. Children may find this difficult to comprehend but at least a pious wife’s manner should be in accordance with deen and rationale.

Further Reading:

The Virtues of Women – 40 Hadith
The Purpose of Marriage
Two Sided Friendship and Rights
The Great Benevolence of Rasulullah On His Wives
Marriage is a Mode of Ibadah
Altering Our Present Opinion and Mode of Thought
The Status of Women in Islam
The Governance and Supervision of Women by Men
Advice and Warning to Men
Manners and Ways to Easy Fulfilment of Rights in Marriage
Respect for the People following the Sunnah and Fearing Allah

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